Sunday, 1st June, 2025
Bible Reading: Romans 1: 18 – 32
Memory Verse: “I have made a covenant (agreement) with my eyes; How then could I gaze [lustfully] at a virgin? Job 31:1 (AMP)
Hadassah Boluwatife wrote a piece titled, “Is it bad for married couple to watch pornography?”. She said: This was the question a married woman asked me some time ago, and let me tell you, my immediate response was, “No way!” Now, before anyone gets their undies in a twist, let’s take a moment to really unpack the impact of pornography on a marriage, because it’s more destructive than you might think.
First of all, let’s clear the air: Pornography isn’t just about steamy scenes on a screen. It’s about expectations, lies, and a slow, insidious erosion of intimacy.
Sure, it may seem harmless at first. Maybe you think it’s a little spice for the relationship. It’s more like adding cayenne pepper to a dish that was fine without it. It’s overpowering, it’s unnecessary, and it can burn things down pretty quickly.
When a married couple watches porn, they are often subconsciously setting unrealistic expectations about sex. Trust me, no one is going to look like the perfectly airbrushed models on screen. Even if they did, guess what? They wouldn’t be your spouse.
Pornography creates a gap between reality and fantasy that leads to dissatisfaction, disappointment, and eventually, disconnection. If you’ve ever found yourself comparing your partner to a porn star, you know exactly what I’m talking about.
Now, let’s talk about the long-term damage. Studies have shown that pornography can affect sexual satisfaction and intimacy. Over time, it can create emotional distance, because it’s often a form of escape rather than an enhancement. Couples who turn to pornography may start to neglect the real work of building a deeper, emotional connection. If your idea of intimacy is no longer cuddling, talking, or just enjoying each other’s company; but instead, revolving around the “screen” time, you’re heading for a rocky road
Here’s the danger: It’s not just about the individual, it’s about the marriage. Your spouse is a person, not a prop for your fantasies. Porn can lead to secrecy, lies, and a breakdown in trust, which, if not addressed, can be devastating to the foundation of your relationship. A couple that watches porn together is a couple that risks losing sight of what truly matters—authentic, vulnerable connection.
So, here’s my challenge to you: Make a covenant with your eyes. Just like Job said, “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.”
Dear married couples, it’s time to make that same commitment to each other. Protect your marriage. Protect your hearts. Pornography is a silent killer of love, and no one should let it have its way into their home. Are you ready to take that step? Say no to pornography today and choose true intimacy. Sexual Purity Is Possible Even In Marriage.
Now, if pornography is this bad for married couples, what are you single doing with it? Mind you, pornography comes in different format. Don’t say you won’t watch it, but you wouldn’t mind hearing the sounds from such sinful act. Why move close to the fire if you actually don’t want to be burnt? You will surely go back with bad odour. There is an evil spirit attached to pornography.
Quote: Pornography creates a gap between reality and fantasy
Prophetic Decree: The grip of pornography is broken by the power in the Blood of Jesus.
Prayer Focus
1. Holy Spirit, purge my heart and eyes, in Jesus name.
2. I receive grace to consecrate my eyes, in Jesus name.
3. O Lord, circumcise my heart, in Jesus name.
4. Demonic appetite for pornography, die, in Jesus name.
5. Blood of Jesus, purge my heart in Jesus name.
BIBLE IN ONE YEAR: 2 Chronicles 1, Psalm 72
