Monday, 28th October, 2024
Bible Reading: Romans 12:1-2
Memory Verse: And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him. Romans 12:1 (NLT)
Your courtship is going to be filled with emotions. You will need to DECISIVELY AND DILIGENTLY guard your emotions with all diligence. Mind you, the devil is very legalistic. Some problems crept into many homes as soon as they defiled their marriage beds. Be warned. How then do you manage sexual attractions in courtship?
1. First, know that sexual attraction is normal in courtship: You will most likely have a chemistry for each other. Infact, you should be worried if you don’t have such tingling feelings. However, you must never forget that you are a Christian bound under the oath of holiness. Avoid physical contact as much as you can to avoid being stirred up in your emotions. Why eat in a hurry what is meant to last an entire lifetime? There is a food unto death, beloved. Arm yourself with the fear of God: I MUST PLEASE GOD WITH MY COURTSHIP. Do not mess up your testimony of fidelity.
2. Set Boundaries: Setting boundaries will help you stay in check. No ‘courtesy visit’ beyond 6pm. No hugging. No kissing. No pecking. No meeting in the closet with only the two of you in attendance. No nothing that will stir your hormones and make you lose your brain. You must stay sexually pure in courtship. Setting boundaries will help you a lot.
3. Be honest with each other: Ovulation can sometimes jerk up your sexual desire making you lose control to something as simple as touch. Let him know the days you can’t just see him. There are days as a man you know your libido is high, don’t visit.
4. Avoid flirty, sexy, midnight chats: You will lose your sanity and get horny. The next time you see, you may land in bed. Don’t start what you can’t finish and one day regret. If you are not matured managing your emotions before marriage, be sure you won’t be able to manage it even in marriage.
5. Set your wedding date: If your sexual urge is getting unbearable, kindly set your wedding date and set yourself free. If you are still schooling, you might need to get a break from your courtship till you get your bearing and then resume.
Seun Oladele said, “Some singles might say, “What happens to self-control?” Yes, you must have self-control as a good born again Christian, but courtship requires more than self-control to keep your sexual purity. Setting boundaries is the key! You can’t be praying together on your bed on a cold rainy night and preach self-control to each other. Proverbs 6:27 (NKJV), “Can a man take fire to his bosom, And his clothes not be burned?” To keep your sanity in courtship, learn when to stay and when to run. Flee from all appearances of evil (1 Thes. 5:22). May you not fall, in Jesus’ name.
Quote: God’s grace plus setting boundaries are your surest bet to being sexually pure.
Prophetic Decree: Your garment shall not be defiled in Jesus name.
Prayer Focus
1. Thank you father for connecting me to my spouse.
2. I receive grace not to defile my marriage bed, in Jesus name.
3. Foundational powers aimed at destroying my marriage bed, die, in Jesus name.
4. I bring my body and emotions under the dominion of the Holy Spirit, in Jesus name.
5. I receive the grace for preservation, in Jesus name.
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