Wednesday, 25^th March, 2026

Memory Verse:‎ A kind answer soothes angry feelings, but harsh words stir them up. Proverbs 15:1 (CEV)

Great honour to the grace of God upon Pastor Bisi Adewale for this piece. He said: ‎One of the greatest secrets to a lasting marriage is the power of apology. Every couple will offend each other from time to time, not because they are enemies, but because they are human. The real danger is not in the conflict, but in how it is handled. A wrong apology can deepen the wound, but a right apology can heal the heart and restore intimacy. A sincere apology is one of those gentle answers that can bring healing to your marriage. Here are 10 right ways to apologise and truly heal your marriage:

‎1. Acknowledge the Wrong Clearly: Don’t hide behind vague words like, “If I offended you…” That is not an apology, it shifts the blame to your spouse. Instead, be specific: “I know I hurt you when I shouted at you yesterday.” A real apology takes ownership. When King David sinned, he didn’t say, “If Israel felt offended…” He said, “I have sinned against the Lord” (2 Samuel 12:13). In marriage, clarity shows sincerity.

‎2. Say “I’m Sorry” with Genuine Emotion: Words alone are not enough; your tone and posture matter. A cold, casual “sorry” will never heal wounds. Look your spouse in the eyes, soften your voice, and let your heart speak. ‎Imagine your spouse crying because of your harsh words, and you mutter, “Sorry o.” That won’t bring comfort. But if you gently hold their hands, look into their eyes, and say, “I am truly sorry for hurting you. Please forgive me,” healing begins immediately.

‎3. Avoid Excuses and Justifications: Many apologies fail because they are loaded with excuses: “I was tired,” “You pushed me,” “That’s just how I am.” Excuses weaken apologies. ‎An apology is not a courtroom defence; it is an admission of wrong. Don’t mix it with self-justification. Jesus said in Matthew 5:37, “Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No’.” Likewise, let your apology be pure and free of excuses.

‎4. Take Responsibility Fully: ‎Say, “It was my fault,” not, “We both made mistakes.” Yes, your spouse may also have erred, but humility requires you to own your part first. A husband once told his wife, “We are both guilty.” She responded, “But who shouted first?” Healing began only when he admitted, “It was me.” Taking responsibility humbles your pride and shows love.

‎5. Express How Their Pain Matters to You: ‎Apologies go deeper when you show empathy. Say, “I know my words hurt you. I can see the pain in your eyes, and it breaks my heart.” This proves that you value not just peace, but also your partner’s emotions. Romans 12:15 says, “Rejoice with those who rejoice, and mourn with those who mourn.” In marriage, true love feels the pain of the other person.

Quote:  ‎If you want your marriage to thrive, learn not just to say “I’m sorry” but to say it right.

Prophetic Decree: Satanic tantrums to separate you and your spouse shall backfire, in Jesus name. 

Prayer Focus 

O Lord, please give me the humility to apologise quickly, the grace to forgive easily, and the wisdom to love deeply, so that your marriage will shine as a testimony of God’s love, in Jesus name.

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BIBLE IN ONE YEAR:  Joshua 9-11